I’ve been reading in a lot of articles that moms shouldnt be too hard on themselves and should take a break once in a while. In the 5 months that I’ve been a mommy, this is the first time ever I’ve been on my own.
Sure, there are times I would ask my husband for a break – he’ll leave me for 10-15 minutes at the living room, just doing my thing. There was a time that we left our LO at my in law’s so we could go out. Still, I need space to think about nothing but myself.
So thank you articles from Smart Parenting, Kelly Mom and Kelly Misa. I was contemplating how to break the news to my husband when suddenly an opportunity presented itself. And I grabbed it real quick – like the last piece of Nutella that is 50% off.
It’s hard to take the wife, mommy and homemaker out of me so, actually, my me time was spent on errands. A couple of years ago, me time meant manicure/pedicure with foot spa sesh, whole body massage, finding a really good drink (juice, or coffee) with matching cake. Yesterday, I went to the mall (the 2 humongous malls near me which are adjacent to each other) to buy home and baby stuff.
I asked my husband to drop me off at SM North EDSA because it was at his side of the road. I had 2 SM rewards cards (BDO Advantage and Mom card) so I wanted to do the bulk of my shopping here. My husband lost my H&M little black umbrella for the 4th time (I’m not even exaggerating) so I went there again. Of course, I didnt come out with just one item: I had a nail buffer and a bath mat as well. There’s this organizer with stars design that I really wanted for my little girl’s cabinet but this shop was really out of budget.
Went straight to the department store. My number one agenda here really is her Tiny Buds In A Rash? cream. But of course, if you’re at the baby section, you’ll end up buying more than you should. I got a Playgro cooling teether, floor puzzle rubber mat, Mamy Poko diaper pants, anti mosquito patches, and white lace socks. I didnt buy their soft ball with bell sound because it looked mediocre, plus the patches seemed too small for my girl to notice. The electronic toys were also expensive so I left that for another time.
That round was already too tiring due to the sales people pushing their products on me (I got tired deciding which ones to get). Their Tiny Buds section only had a couple of products – no rash cream! Bummer. I went to a farther counter to avoid the queue. Aaaaaannnndddd I pulled out my BDO Rewards card instead of the Mom Card. What a waste.
I looked for Healthy Options to find an organic cereal for my baby, which will be her first food. It was at the lower ground level, near the end of the hall. Nothing. Just pureed stuff. I didnt want to get those because those had to be consumed 2 days after opening. Too expensive.
I traversed the long walkway going to Trinoma – I had to, a lot on my list are still unchecked. Good thing that major pedestrian lane heads straight to Landmark’s grocery floor. I deposited my baggage then headed upstairs.
Ahh. The home floor. I’ve been here more than a couple of times but not at the end that leads to the grocery. There I noticed a section for all bathroom needs. Jackpot!!! THIS is what I have been looking for! I’ve found all the things I needed online but I figured, if the price difference isnt that big, I’d rather buy it there to save on shipping fee. I finally got myself small baskets to store bathroom needs (shampoo, soap, tissue, etc) – 2 in brown, 1 in dust blue. There was a stainless steel shower caddy, both good looking that it took me a while to pick one. The saleslady gave me a slip for the caddy because it was on sale. Yipee! I couldnt help myself so I got a towel holder as well.
I couldnt forget the clock I saw the last time I was there so I decided to get it. And there it was: only P349.50! Ding ding ding! Amazing! As the salesman went at the back to get me a new stock, I saw a nice looking clock near it. I stared at it, wondering if I should get it instead. It costed around P700, which is how a regular wall clock costs. I was convincing myself that I took the better one when I saw the other clock has a second hand, and the one I took didnt! I hate clocks with second hand because it keeps me up at night. Good choice!
When I got to the counter, I reminded the cashier about the caddy being on sale. She said yes, that she got it. Then she realized there was a slip. She cancelled out everything and punched all items again. Huh? Turns out, all items were 10% off because of Chinese New Year; the caddy was on 20% off that’s why I was given a slip for it! Oh man! Had I known, I wouldnt have dropped by SM at all!
I went to the babies’ section after depositing my baggage (again). There it was, the Tiny Buds rash cream. I bought a stage 1 toothgel as well of the same brand. I kicked myself, figuratively, of course. Landmark had a more massive (and better) selection, plus everything’s on sale! Screw the points! I went to the infant toy section as well. They had a version of the electronic percussion toy, a lot cheaper than the one at SM; it was a brand as well that donates portions of each sale to a certain charity. I nearly bought it but the label says 18M+. It was too big for my little girl as well. I got her a ball instead; the one that has holes for her to grip on and plays a music when you move it.
I looked for Healthy Options again, this time at Trinoma. The market difference of SM and Trinoma (Ayala Malls) is very evident here. At SM, it’s situated at a location that no one really passes by. The store itself was almost empty and no one seemed to mind they werent stocked well. At Trinoma, it was jampacked and there was a queue. I went to baby & kids section and immediately saw what I was looking for: Happy Baby Organic Probiotic Oatmeal. Yay!
Just in time, my husband called to say they were on their way back. I claimed all my baggages and waited for my husband’s call. I bought bread for him and his brother (none for me), and a lemonade.
I was ecstatic. I bought a lot for our home and my baby. Though the only thing I got myself was the nail buffer, I still feel like I treated myself. My shopping experience was pleasant as well because I didnt have to drag along my husband and my baby, who both get easily tired with my constant rounds of the stores.
It was a bit early so we were able to squeeze in a spa appointment. We decided to peep at our LO as we dropped off my brother in law. She was crying. I got her at once and she stopped shortly. Aww. She missed her mommy! My mother in law was out of her wits because they already did everything to calm her down. I made sure she was ok then we went out again.
The massage was at an affordable spa but it was good enough. The cost of our massages combined was the same as the price of one on the spa we used to frequent.
We went back to find our little girl sleeping. We were told she began crying as soon as we left. Mommy guilt kicking in. I was about 2 spoonfuls into my dinner when she woke up crying. My father in law told me to finish my dinner first but I got up to get her anyway. As soon as she touched my arms, she stopped crying. Aw. Poor baby. She missed her mommy!
She was being extra clingy so I just held her close. I think we should let her get used to staying with her grandparents from time to time. But I should be mindful of the time as well; I cant leave her for long periods of time.
Anyway, the articles were right. It’s very tiring to become a mom. We owe it to ourselves to be pampered or at the very least take a break. We are often told to tske care of ourselves but it’s very easy to forget everything and just focus on being a mommy. From this trip, I learned that it doesnt hurt to give yourself that space once in a while. Do what you feel will make you happy, no matter what that is. And do it alone.
Looking forward to my next alone time. Ideally, this should be done monthly but I can settle with quarterly. Maybe I’ll finally have a pedicure and eat cake.